Posted by
flagwaver on Thursday, February 15, 2007 8:12:54 AM
narcissism: (n) undue dwelling on one's own self or attainments
At the risk of sounding 'homophobic' and being politically incorrect, let me say that I am sick to death of gay people. That does not mean that i hate gays, or want them to die, or anything like that. I am just sick of hearing their complaints, their agitating for special consideration, and especially their proud pronouncements of the fact that they are gay.
Last week a former NBA player, John Amechi, announced on ESPN's Outside the Lines Sunday that he was in fact a homosexual. Of course ESPN flogged the 'historic' announcement on it's programs all week, ran a million snippets of the interview, and spent a week telling us how Amechi was so brave to come out. They had discussions on their television programs, and on their radio broadcasts all about how tough it must have been for Amechi, especially seeing how 'homophobic' athletes are, ya know!
What I was thinking, though was this: Who cares? I don't care now, nor did I ever care about who John Amechi spent his night with. That is none of my business, and I would have appreciated him keeping his personal life just that...personal.
Which brings me to my broader point, namely that I am sick to death of having to hear about gays all the time. The gay lobby, and some individual gays, are the most narcissistic people in the world! They act as though the entire world wants to know whether they are gay, straight, or other and they can't wait to tell us. Well guess what people, we don't want to know! And your insistence on telling us is a major annoyance; why can't you keep your business to yourselves?
And please, do not act surprised when others react negatively to you and your lifestyle! If you didn't want to deal with any negative reaction, then you should have kept your business out of the street! You want everyone to know what you do, and who you do it with then be prepared to take the backlash that comes with it.
And before anyone goes off and acts like I live in some cloistered world and have never dealt with gays, let me disabuse you of that notion right now. I have had coworkers that were some of the most outrageous gays you ever wanted to see, and they ended up as friends of mine. I have family members that were gay, and they were never my gay cousins; they were simply my cousins. And one of the most stable relationships I have ever seen in my life is that of a couple of gay men that were together when I was a kid of about 8 years old and are still together now. The thing about them, though, was the fact that they felt no need to announce to the world that they were gay. They simply lived their lives the way they wanted to, they didn't ask anyone for permission and never expected to get everyone to approve of them. They spent their time living life and not trying to force themselves on the rest of the community.
I just wish that the gay lobby, and individual gays in many cases, would just take that approach. Live your life, and leave me out of it. The whole world does not need, nor cares to know, what your sexual orientation is. Maybe if all of the "Look at Me!" tactics were discarded, and all of the attempts to force others to accept the gay lifestyle were abandoned maybe more acceptance would be forthcoming. But this continuing narcissism only leads to more resentment from heterosexuals who feel that they are being coerced into accepting 'alternative' lifestyles. How about focusing more on just being a person, and less on being a gay person?
I bet that wold gain you more acceptance than to continuing to shout "Look at Me!" at every opportunity. Just something to think about.